People try a lot of things in attempt to become happy. Most of them don’t work, so people jus 
try them again, harder! Here are a few:
❧ Getting more money or possessions
❧ Getting more power or status
❧ Pursuing indulgent pleasures
❧ Focusing on their weaknesses and trying to improve them (instead of playing to their strengths)
❧ Striving to be perfect (and accepting nothing less)
❧ Trying to force happiness, using false affirmations or other tricks 4 We've all heard that money can’t buy happiness, but most people don’t really believe it.
More money won’t make me happy—are you nuts? Come on, if I hit the lotto, I could pay off
all of my debt, quit my crappy job, do what I've always wanted to do, and still have plenty to give to my family and charities. You’re telling me that wouldn't make me happier? Yes. It’s surprising but true. 

Lots of studies have been done on this. A year after winning, lottery jackpot winners are no happier than they were before they won. Amazingly, the same is true for people who are in terrible accidents and suddenly paralyzed: a year later, they’re no less happy than before.Circumstances are not what makes us happy or unhappy.
 Think about it: if money was enough to make us happy, there should be a lot of people walking around saying, “Wow, thank God I got that last raise! Now I have enough money, and I am happy!” Yet I’ve never heard anyone say that. Most rich people seem to be quite unhappy, in fact. If fortune or fame worked, you would never see movie stars and rock musicians with drug problems—they’d be too happy to be interested in drugs. Similarly, possessions do not cause happiness.
 If they did, wouldn't we be happy by now? I, for one, have bought a lot of awesome things, but the only ones that have made a long-term difference are the ones that are involved in doing something: my spinning wheel, my kayak, my convertible. The things themselves don’t matter much, but doing fun things with them adds joy to my life. Another thing that won’t make you happy is whitewashing over reality and feeding yourself a lot of bogus affirmations that you know aren't true. Any philosophy that requires you to deny reality is a false path. In fact, studies have shown that insincerity is every bit as bad for your heart as anger.6 Your body feels the tension between the truth and the way you’re acting, and finds it very destructive. It’s important to look for the good in a situation, but it’s even more important to be real. 
These are all traps, but they’re very easy to fall into, especially with media and advertisers giving us a push every chance they get! In case you don’t already know, the main purpose of television, magazines, newspapers, and all popular media is to sell advertisements. That’s how they make money. They produce content to get your attention so you’ll see as many of their ads as possible.
Meanwhile, the advertisers’ goal is to get you to buy products. This is obvious enough; the
insidious part is that if you’re generally content with your life, you won’t feel compelled to buy
much. To get you to buy, advertisers intentionally do everything they can to convince you that something is missing in your life, and if you were just prettier, had whiter teeth, used a different laundry detergent, or whatever, then people would like you better. They try to convince you that something is wrong in your life now, but if you buy their product, it will fix it, and then you’ll be happy. They get you coming and going: they tell you you’re inadequate and shouldn't be happy, and then they give you a solution that will never make you happy. The more you watch or listen, the harder it is to be happy.

 These messages make a difference, so protect yourself from them as much as you can. Use an ad blocker on your web browser. If you listen to commercial radio, switch stations when the commercials come on. If you watch TV , at least mute the commercials, or better, watch a recording and skip past them. Better still, stop watching TV . Most of the shows are also designed to make you unhappy so you’ll buy more of the advertisers’ products. If this all sounds too hard, just try it for a week and see if you feel more peaceful and content. It’s much easier to be happy without all those negative messages.
In addition to the happiness traps of money, power, and being fake, there are a few persistent attitudes that are huge obstacles to happiness. These are victimization, feelings of entitlement, waiting for rescue, and blaming. The common thread is staying stuck and
focusing on what you can’t do, instead of taking full responsibility and control to change
your life. In short, happiness doesn't come from circumstances, and neither does unhappiness. Money, possessions, fame, or power can’t make you happy, and terrible things happening to you don’t have to make you unhappy unless you hang onto them and let them define you.
                                                                     and be Happy  

                 >>>>The real cause of unhappiness<<<<< 

               <<<<<< How to Be Happy in Life >>>>>>


If the subject got even a little admiration share them with your friends and Put like

Thank you my Dears